Bloody Well Right
I have had just about enough of this.
Those of you who know me know that I worry more than anyone else.
And most of the time, I am worrying about my friends.
I apologize if I hurt people's feelings. But you have to realize that this was not my intention.
I was and am not in any way trashing anyone. I am worried sick about my friend. If I did not love him, I would not care so damn much.
Sometimes people are the angriest when they take things the wrong way. This is my way of expressing things. If you get that pissed off, vent about me on your journal.
I am not trying to bash anyone. I just care too much to let things pass me by.
And the racist comments don't help the closeminded argument much. That just makes tempers flare, and spins things out of control.
So please, stop flipping out over how I said it. Look at what I am trying to say. In the end, that's where we are all going to end up.
Those of you who know me know that I worry more than anyone else.
And most of the time, I am worrying about my friends.
I apologize if I hurt people's feelings. But you have to realize that this was not my intention.
I was and am not in any way trashing anyone. I am worried sick about my friend. If I did not love him, I would not care so damn much.
Sometimes people are the angriest when they take things the wrong way. This is my way of expressing things. If you get that pissed off, vent about me on your journal.
I am not trying to bash anyone. I just care too much to let things pass me by.
And the racist comments don't help the closeminded argument much. That just makes tempers flare, and spins things out of control.
So please, stop flipping out over how I said it. Look at what I am trying to say. In the end, that's where we are all going to end up.
posted by Amazing at 11:06 PM
15 Comments:
" If you get that pissed off, vent about me on your journal."
whoa. isnt that what shouldnt happen? shouldnt we go to the source of our issue instead of letting them know through an online journal. im sick of these subliminal and straightforward ways of communicating through away messages and blog entries. just call me.
grace, I know you werent trying to bash anyone and that your intentions really were pure but you cant use this as a personal journal if you are going to post about confidential subjects. it should be a blog where you talk about issues not pin point out someone's problem. its just not fair to others. and i think the best way to show him that you care was to keep his promise.
I know you were just trying to help but you have to realize how this has distracted everyone from the real issue.
Grace, speaking from my own personal experiences, I can understand why you write about the things you write and how you feel about them. But remember, when you start writing about other people's lives you're dragging them into a light that they themselves may not want to stand under.
I had a previous blog, where I did in fact talk about friends and important personal situations. In the short-run, I got in trouble and it caused a fair amount of pain much to my chagrin, while in the long-run there were positive resolutions.
You must realize that everything you write online is open to anyone's eyes. Personal matters require privacy, which good friends understand is sacred. Right now, if i do address certain matters I have to disguise it well, even I have to change the story, the dates and names. As long as my point remains intact, and as long as I know what i'm talking about, nothing else needs to be added. I write for myself first, others second. And sometimes I won't even write about an issue until it has already been resolved.
Be careful about what you write, and what you say Grace, online and offline. A person can heal a wound, or rub salt into it. And personally, a blog to me is just another luxury, and not a necessity.
grace, i've had a blog for 2 1/2 years now, and it's been very public for quite a while. i've written about subjects that weren't meant to be written about, made fun of things that you're not supposed to joke about, and said things that i didn't know i was capable of saying. and people got pissed off with me.
they got over it.
and the friends that were worth keeping are still there. no matter what i said, or how i said it.
don't fucking apologize for what you said. you were writing what you felt. you were being real. you have a talent to do so that other people envy. people are just mad that you being real involved them. i guess they don't consider the fact that they did something to get in that position.
stop apologizing and start being real more often.
--chokey--
Grace Im not going to bitch you out, im not even mad. I made a mistake to trust you with a secret and it wont happen again.
I know your worried about me but you swore to me that you wouldnt tell a soul what i told you at lunch. If your so worried about my life why tell the world what my problems are, What does that help? Now, not only have i gotten no less than 13 messages on my cell phone about it but since ive started writing this comment ive had 3 people im me and offer me pity.
You are right, this is your blog and you have a right to post whatever you like on it. But you also consider yourself my friend and if im not mistaken friends keep secrets. Why post something personal about me for everyone to hear, Did it help solve the problem? Why not make it a private or even friends only entry. Or maybe not make references to me that the whole school knows about. I mean how many other kids brought hash brownies to school?
Im not mad at you im really not. I just think that if you really wanted to help you would start by being a loyal friend and start caring more about me than your blog.
-the boy who overdosed and went to the hospital-
hello grace.
worry all you want... you can even worry like a worry hitler or some crazy fucked up shit like that. worrying never got anyone anywhere. worrying a secret to every internet soul out there confuses the hell out of me and renders me questionable of your sanity.
but let me help you loosen up your tenseness you've strung up on this online diary or wahtever this website shit is.
i only know about this through our narcodic-overdose boy.
and i know about that incident not through your shitty blog but because i was there. and he didn't overdose because of triple c, it was because he chugged a ton of tequilla in about 10 seconds.
no one was supposed to know about that. because this is highschool and things like this happen and it's none of anyone else's business. he's fine now. you're worried because you just don't get it. the more shit people go through the stronger they are. i can safely say he's stronger now than before. but, grace... don't you have a real diary? one that millions of highschool kids don't view religiously every day? think about that before bitching about someone's fucked up past to the world. man!
i'm not trying to be an asshole but i thought i'd bitch about something since everyone else is allowed to do that it seems. but it really sucks that you were the one person who helped broadcast this gossip around richmond and now he's having to deal with the aftermath.
thanks or whatever.
sincerely,
caroline seaman, who
knows a bit about broadcasted gossip.
Grace,
Wow some of you are incapable of producing a rational thought. Has anyone read the bullshit after you wrote? Is this some kind of joke?
“...you cant use this as a personal journal if you are going to post about confidential subjects. it should be a blog where you talk about issues not pin point out someone's problem. its just not fair to others.”
Is Princess Fiona the new authority on acceptable journal entries? Since when is a journal not the appropriate place to write about personal things? Life is not fair, grow the fuck up.
Well kevin, did you read this blog post? I would agree with you if it were any other topic, a family matter for instance, but this is her personal feelings about this guy. A true friend will sacrifice a certain amount of self for a friend. Any one who wouldn’t risk that friendship to try to help some one with a life altering problem such as this, isn’t a true friend. But it is ok, allot of people say stupid shit. The problem here is too much shit and not enough thought came out of your head. You have to realize that you have to save this condescending/ words of wisdom bullshit for one of those times the thoughts out weigh the shit. I honestly think you meant well but you don’t see this for what it is.
“...the friends that were worth keeping are still there. no matter what i said, or how i said it.”
Maybe it is time to start sorting grace.
“worry all you want... you can even worry like a worry hitler or some crazy fucked up shit like that.”
well... after we step past your second grade slam “a worry hiItler”. Did you make that up all on your own...wow. Well now after you are done patting yourself on the back for that wonderful title, I must say that I am glad that we all have not forgotten those weak german slams from middle school.
“worrying never got anyone anywhere.”
I will just let you reread this for a second. Yeah you said that. Isn’t it amazing how shit just come out of you mouth. I don't have time to explain to you how dumb of a thing that was to say.
“worrying a secret to every internet soul out there confuses the hell out of me and renders me questionable of your sanity.
And three lines later you tell “every internet soul” the real truth.
“but let me help you loosen up your tenseness you've strung up on this online diary or wahtever this website shit is. i only know about this through our narcodic-overdose boy. and i know about that incident not through your shitty blog but because i was there. and he didn't overdose because of triple c, it was because he chugged a ton of tequilla in about 10 seconds.”
Well if i am not mistaken you are now a self proclaimed lunatic. And I am glad to hear that she is only worrying about an alcohol problem instead of a drug problem because they couldn’t both possibly kill you. That just would be “fair” as princess fiona would put it.
“no one was supposed to know about that.”
Ouch, I guess it doesn't count if you say it, because you were there and all.
“because this is highschool and things like this happen and it's none of anyone else's business. he's fine now.”
I only know one other person who has a been to the hospital for a serious alcohol accident. He used to be a really good friend of mine and now he is the most fucked up person I know. He wa ok at first he was fucked up over night i have known him for 6 years now and only in the last two years has this really started to fuck him up. But I guess he is the normal high school student. I have to agree with you last sentence though he is fine...for now.
“you're worried because you just don't get it. the more shit people go through the stronger they are. i can safely say he's stronger now than before.”
Well next time I see an athlete who has had to throw away every thing they ever had because of drugs or alcohol I will sure as heel think that they are a stronger for it. I admire the worlds addicts who don’t have the strength in them to quit. These things become a major problem that you people can’t handle on their own. I am glad you can “safely say” this.
“but, grace... don't you have a real diary? one that millions of highschool kids don't view religiously every day?think about that before bitching about someone's fucked up past to the world. man!”
Millions? Do you honestly believe that these issues reach that many people? It doesn't. But if it did you would have millions of High school kids who really didn’t give a fuck. so lets get away from your ego just a bit and concentrate on something serious.
“i'm not trying to be an asshole but i thought i'd bitch about something since everyone else is allowed to do that it seems. but it really sucks that you were the one person who helped broadcast this gossip around richmond and now he's having to deal with the aftermath.
thanks or whatever.”
First off next time try a little harder. All around richmond. this further proves the size of your ego. It was not grace who made him do this , you on the other hand were there and could have stopped this from even happening. Every one could use a little advice every one in a while, we are only teenagers, but at least we can rely on a true friend to keep us straight when we really need it.
sincerely,
caroline seaman, who
knows a bit about broadcasted gossip.”
Right.
Well there is really only one comment in this whole thing that should really be considered and that is “-the boy who overdosed and went to the hospital-” and he seems to have expressed his feelings on his own . And that is personally between Grace and him.
lets all go back and remember things we learned in elementary school. everybody makes mistakes. it was a mistake that he overdosed, maybe it was a mistake that grace blogged about it. but we all make mistakes and we all have consequences for them. now im sure both of these people are aware of their consequences so you can all shut the hell up i think they know they did something wrong and i dont think we should point fingers and make a big deal about it. it wont make them feel any better than they already do so just grow up.
AMEN
" Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss
william i never said grace shouldnt have worried enough to risk our friendship over it. I simply dont see the point of disregarding the promise she made to keep it a secret and further dont see what blogging it help solve. I still overdosed and nothing has changed except for now more people know. Dont bitch out caroline for stating her opiion when the whole problem at hand is over the freedom to say what you want on the internet. Caroline has just as much right to bitch someone out as grace does to blog. Me and grace are still friends, we still talk, and we still eat lunch together. If we arent mad at each other i dont see why anyone else should still be commenting. Including you.
-hunter-
hey grace ann! olive you!
everyone stop writing your highschool essays and talk to grace in a civilized manner. it is her personal journal-she can write about what she wants-even if you disagree with it. even it hurts you, or pisses you off. i have known this girl alot longer than any you, and her intentions are always for the good. looking at this situation from outside of its bubble, i see that there is a lot of tension-that is unescessary. first-this is highschool-word travels fast-u must think before you act in other words. you are like mini celebrities and godwin is hollywood--> people are going to know about everything you do basically-->it comes with the territory. yes i know this a very sensitive subject for both sides, and my heart goes out to both, but to make things as painless as possible-leave this predicament between the two that need to discuss it. i thinl the best thing to do, would be to express yourself through your journals and not tattle tail, or cut down anybody so stupidly in the comment area. like thumper so wisely once said:
"IF YOU CAN'T SAY ANYTHING NICE, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL."
I read this post/comments awhile ago, but just now found the time to write..sorry!
Congratulations, Grace. And I mean this sincerely. Although Kevin may be right that in some instances, you want to be careful how direct you get in bringing up other people’s lives/problems, in this situation you had no choice, and you are good for doing it. Why? Because this isn’t just a drama of inconsequential high school loves or enemies. This is life or death. And most people at your age don’t take this stuff seriously. You have your whole life ahead of you…a few wasted nights on triple c or a bottle of tequila won’t hinder your future, right? Dead fucking wrong. And despite the ripples you have obviously caused by bringing this situation into the light for those who might otherwise not have been involved, it was the only good thing to do. You know those cheesy commercials where the kid is lying in the middle of the road, and his friend has to decide whether to pull him out of the way of the truck or leave him there? Most of these people would have left him there. You tried to pull him out.
Good for you, Grace. Keep writing.
basically-
it was great of you to worry and love and care for your friend.
it was not so great of you to post it for many people to see when he asked you not to tell anyone.
that's the bottom line. i dont even see how people can have so many different opinions on what she did and if it was wrong or not- i am not emotionally involved in this in any way and it is still crystal clear to me.
sorry, its none of my business and you don't even know me, but i just had to put my two cents in.
Because it's more serious than most secrets.
Example:
"I cheated on my girlfriend. Please don't tell anyone." Okay.
"I skipped school. Please don't tell anyone." Sure.
"I almost killed myself. I'm at risk of doing it again." Sorry buddy, people need to know. These are the secrets you can't always keep. Even priests and doctors are allowed to break the client priviledge if they deem someone at risk to themselves.
I have a friend that is an alcoholic. We tried an intervention, it didn't "take". He is lying comatose in the hospital with his arms purple and swollen to twice the normal size due to the advanced stages of alcholism. I wish I would have had the guts to do what you did when my friend was in high school. I hope all this "takes" for your friend, if it does he will thank you.
Perspective...
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